You are most likely familiar with the statement “sticks and
stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”, this statement may
seem helpful on the surface but there are some misleading concepts involved
here. Let’s look closely at this statement to see if it is truly accurate or
helpful. The first part claims that “sticks and stones may break my bones”; let’s
think on that for just a moment, better yet you can prove this statement out
for yourself. Go outside and walk by some sticks and without touching them see
if any of them can actually break your bones. Pick one up and see if just
holding it in your hand will accomplish the actual breaking of your bones.
Strange isn’t it that the stick has no power of itself to fulfill the bone
breaking statement. Now try it with some stones. Find a place were the stones
are gathered together closely in one place and walk slowly by them. Do you feel
any bones begin to break within you? No? How strange. Try picking one up and
hold it in your hand. Is the result the same as the stick? Yes, of course it
is. You have now proven that sticks and stones left on there own cannot break
your bones.
Now let’s examine the latter part of the statement “words
will never hurt me”. This part is a little harder to prove out because it
involves being honest about how we feel when words are used for or against us.
There is a Proverb that I like to quote when dealing with words, it is Proverbs
18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will
eat its fruit. This is very powerful when you understand that the words that
are spoken and heard stay within us forever. So if someone speaks negative
words to you, you will begin to think negative thoughts and those negative
thoughts will begin to form negative behavior. If you are honest with yourself
you know when an insult hurts you and how it makes you feel. You know that it
stays in your mind for quite along while. You know that if you dwell on the
insult long enough that it can actually change the way you think of yourself.
With that said, we now can see the words can and do hurt us.
We all would like people to say good and righteous things
about us, so how do we get them to do that? Keep in mind we cannot change
others we can only change ourselves. So we need to begin to speak positive
words about ourselves. What? Did I just say that we need to say positive words
to ourselves? Yes indeed we do, because as I stated earlier we cannot change
anyone else we can only change ourselves. So to clarify that statement we cannot
make someone say nice things about us so we need to say nice things about
ourselves and maybe, just maybe, as we begin to say good and righteous things
about ourselves others may pick up on it.
Ultimately we need to be speaking life giving words to
ourselves and then speak those same life giving words to others.
There is a simple phrase that you can start with. I would
suggest that you do this in the privacy of your own space. Yes you need to say
this out loud. The phrase is: I’m a winner. This is not, I repeat, not designed
to make you feel superior to anyone else or to vainly puff you up. It is
designed to give you a feeling of confidence and a sense of accomplishment. Now
to back up your new found feeling you need to go out and win. One way you can
do this is to say to yourself, today I’m going to say hello to one person that
I don’t already know. A safe place to do this is in a neighborhood grocery
store or a one stop shopping center. Remember all you are doing is saying
hello. Once you have said hello to one person congratulations, you are a
winner!
There is one more statement that you can make that will help
keep you motivated. It is: I feel good, I feel great! The good part of the
statement is fairly easy to achieve but the great statement is what you are
ultimately striving for.
You must own each of these statements. That is to say that
you must accept and believe you are a winner and that you do feel good and that
you do feel great. I would suggest that you say these statements out loud to
yourself a few times in a row each morning. I’m not suggesting that you chant
them or use them in some bizarre ritual. Simply say them out loud, accept them
as true statements about yourself, and then go about your day and see what
happens.
This is the beginning of your journey into self motivation
and happiness. Remember, you are also trying to speak life into others as well.
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